i know we haven't known each other very long, but i'm just going to jump in and say what's on my mind. go big or go home right?
i hate confrontation. never have. i don't know if i ever will. in my current job, i am a supervisor. confrontational skills would be nice. i wish i could set aside my "am i going to hurt their feelings?" thinking and think "i need to say this because it is going to help them do their job." i'm working on it.
it isn't just in my job where i suffer from this problem. it is in my personal life too; generally when i like someone. i worry that if i say what i'm feeling or what is bothering me, i am going to scare the person away. i have only been in one relationship when i've been able to just say things. i miss that; the openness and honesty (among other things that i'm sure we'll talk about later). so my question is how do you get those things when a relationship isn't in that place? i suppose you just start saying things. you start being open and honest and hope they will too. it can't be worse than sitting here and wondering, can't be worse than holding it all in. can it?
so how do you do that when it scares you to death?
you start with the small things. even in your job, start with the small things. and just because it's confrontation doesn't mean that you have to be a jerk about it. even saying, 'hey, i noticed you were doing this, but really you should be doing this instead'. it's a nice way of saying 'stop it'.
ReplyDeleteand yeah, confrontation is TERRIFYING. i totally agree. but just start with the little things. obviously, this is your own little corner of the interwebs and you can say WHATEVER you want to say, WHENEVER and HOWEVER. this is YOUR safe zone and maybe doing it here will help you be able to do it the real world too.
i'm really glad i found this. i hope you don't mind me reading. if so, just let me know, but it's REALLY exciting having another friend who blogs. :)
i love you, dear.